So everyone's insecure. And insecurities can make you look sound and just generally seem like a really like someone you're not, you know? But you can't help it. You know, i, for instance, have a few insecurities I'd rather not mention in this article.
But, yeah, I mean, totally, everybody's got it. And it's no surprise that a lot of men have insecurities as well. To day, I'm going to be highlighting, in my opinion, after talking to quite a number of male friends and colleagues, the top six insecurities that men have.
And I'll be telling you why they actually shouldn't be because the women don't actually care.
So top six insecurities that men have that actually do not matter when it comes to women, what are they? Number one, listen, let's talk about height, okay? Now, this is a conversation I have had on several platforms, both public and private. Now, I know typically women tend to want men who are taller. It's just the way we've been brought up to look up to the men in our lives, and not just a matter of it being a figure of speech, but actually physically look up to the man in our lives.
However, not all men are vertically blessed. Does that make them less desirable? For some women, yes. But trust me, there are a lot more things that come to play, like the woman's age, the woman's personality, the woman's dreams and aspirations, for instance.
Now, let me break this down. Does height matter? Yes, it does. But in the grand scheme of things, when it comes to actually landing you a decent partner, I would say no.
I think height generally impacts first impressions, but things quickly turn around for this guy if he has other positive traits that he has to show. And I know that it can be a little heartbreaking for guys or for men who are vertically challenged, so to speak, not too tall. And usually their love interests are either the same height or even maybe slightly taller than them.
And of course, I don't blame you guys for feeling that way because a lot of women tend to say I mean, when you ask an average woman on the street who is your ideal man in terms of physical characteristics, chances are the first thing she will say is he has to be tall. Tall, tall, tall, dark and handsome. Well, then again, depends on your race and that kind of thing.
But, yeah, tall is usually the very first criteria. Does it mean that all these rich, not so tall men have something, know something that we are probably oblivious to? There might be something going there? Yes. Height, like I said, may impact first impressions, but at the end of the day, at the end of the day, does it really matter? You could be taller in other departments.
And boy, I think that brings a lot more to the table than height ever will. Catch my drift? Let's talk about this other insecurity that a lot of guys have if they do not drive a nice car. Okay? Now.
Yeah, I know. Like it's pretty fancy when you know the guy you're dating or a guy you have eyes for actually drives in with some really badass car, one that you really, really seen only in the movies, pretty much. But the truth is how many average people can actually afford those kind of rides and that would be almost nobody.
So it doesn't mean that the average man who drives a regular car, whatever your regular may be, cannot find love. I think that he can. Now, the actual truth of the matter is this.
I tend to believe that the whole driving nice cars thing is more of a status symbol for men. It's more for men than for women. It's like for your own ego.
If you drive a nice car and you drive up to this event where all your friends are going to be there, step out of your car. That's a bad ass social statement right there. And I feel like a lot of men actually try to sort of live up to that standard and that whole thing that if you drive a nice car, then it's obvious that you are successful, right? For the most part, I believe it's an ego thing and a lot of women don't really care.
What is the true functionality of a car? It's to get you from point A to point B. Trust me, I have gone on dates where I have a nicer car than the guy who picked me up. But did it take anything away from the date? Did it take his respect away from him? The answer is no, because I thoroughly enjoyed those dates and I thought that the guys were awesome in their own capacity.
So if you meet a woman who is being so superficial and looking at the kind of car you drive to sort of come to a decision about you, then she's not a woman you want to be with anyway. So let's squash that completely. Bald heads, bold heads.
Now, I've seen a lot of guys go through emotional torture, so to speak. The moment they begin to realize that they have a receding hairline, the reactions and I've realized that a lot of men now tend to shave it all off. So once they begin to see bald patches in their heads and whatnot they just shave it all off.
Here's the interesting thing. Bald men sort of have a lot more dominance than men with full hair. And I don't say that in a bad, condescending way.
I'm just saying that because they feel like they have no hair. A lot of them tend to from where I sit anyway, a lot of them tend to compensate in other aspects of their lives. Think about it, though.
What are we going to be doing with your hair? Yeah, run your hands through his hair. I mean, if you're marrying an African man, chances are you can't really run your hands in his hair. And there's nothing like having a bald head than just rubbing it.
So, yeah, I think bald men actually have, like, one up on men with full hair. Let me know what you guys think. Honestly.
I mean, this is like a controversial one, but yeah, I don't think that you guys need to worry a lot about whether you have a receding hairline or not. Bold is a new sexy, they say. Believe it.
All right, now let's address the elephant in the room. Number four, let's address the elephant in the room. Does size matter? Does the size of your penis actually matter? I've spoken to quite a number of women and you would I don't know if you'd believe me, but a lot of them say no.
Yes. If you have big junk in your trunk, it's kind of exciting to know that this guy is packing. But guys like that, women don't necessarily want to be in long term relationships with guys like that.
They actually end up with the guy who is medium to average size because at the end of the day, that's what you can contain comfortably for the rest of your life, as opposed to having a guy with a huge member who that gives you a lot of discomfort during sex. So no offense to guys who have big members, but the truth is when it comes to long term and ladies, if you're watching this video, let me know if I'm just like fibbing. But when it comes to long term, you're not actually looking for a guy with a really huge thingy, okay? As far as it's not like tiny like you can't find it tiny.
You're all right. You're actually all right. Money.
Oh, money, most of the things that guys think about is, yeah, money, money. It's like, get money and you'll get all the women in the world. Money isn't everything. And listen, truth is, right, it's nice to have money. I'm not saying be broke.
I'm not saying if you are so broke that you can barely even put food on your table, any woman is going to be attracted to that. Of course not. I mean, you don't even like the kind of person you are.
Why do you think someone else will like you in your current state? I'm just saying that I'm not expecting you to be able to just fly me in a private jet all across the country. No, far from that. I just need a man who's doing okay.
Like, he could put food on the table. I can have the kids taken care of. We can have the kids taken care of and just meet our very basic needs.
And I think for a lot of women, that's really it. You don't have to be filthy rich to get the girl of your dreams.
And finally, huge muscles. So I know a lot of men who are not gym rats tend to be intimidated a little bit, admitted, like a little bit, right when there are these other men in the running who have, like, bulging muscles and six packs and look like something out of a magazine.
Here's the other thing. They're not in the majority. That means that leaves about 60% of the population, or more actually, of women, 60 or 70% of the population of women stranded with less defined men.
Does that make them less human, less desirable? I think not. I think most women are just looking for a guy who takes good care of himself. So you can be middle aged, you could be in your thirty's, you could be in your 20s, but so far as you, you can you take good care of yourself physically.
Like, you look good, you're you're not carrying too much weight around, you know, and and a lot of people think that it's just a man thing where maybe a lot of men don't necessarily want, like, oversized women or obese women. Of course, there are those who like them as well, but for this case in point, I'm just saying it's vice versa. Women also don't tend to like men who carry on too much weight.
So, yeah, I mean, these are the six Insecurities top Insecurities that I think men worry a bit too much about. That sort of keeps them stressing.