God said it's not good for the man to be only one of his kind. So he made him another kind like him and made that kind a receiver. Therefore, singleness is a state to be pursued, not avoided.
Because when you are perfectly single, then God provides the opportunity for you to give yourself away. Very important. To be single should be the goal of every married person even.
Because you need to be separate, unique and whole to offer value to your husband or your wife. See, when you are whole, you're not a burden to your spouse. Oh, I'm going to talk about this for two minutes.
You should get married because you got so much excess, you need someone to give it to. You shouldn't get married because you are starving for something. You become a burden.
You're looking for attention, looking for approval, looking for someone to make you feel important. That's why you get married. You are a burden to me.
See, if you ain't nobody and you marry someone who ain't nobody, nobody got married. And so you got two people all the time trying to use each other to get to be somebody and ain't nobody in the house.
Some of the loneliest people in the world are married people. So marriage does not solve loneliness, it just exposes it. If you feel lonely tonight, you don't need marriage. You need to meet yourself.
Let me give you some thoughts that will blow your mind. Loneliness is magnified by marriage.
It magnifies and exposes the fact that you are not unique, you are not separate, you are not whole. Singleness is an amazing thing. Adam did not know he needed a mate.
Did you realize that God was the one who said it is not good? Adam didn't care, wasn't interested. Why? He was so complete, so whole, so fulfilled. Fulfilling his purpose, naming animals, ruling the garden, bringing order to the place.
He was so busy he didn't know he needed a mate. Here's the key. You are ready for marriage when you don't need to be.
When you don't need to be married, then you are ready for marriage. You are not ready to live with someone else until you can live with yourself. Why? Because your relationship can only be as successful as your singleness with yourself. And I promise you that no human can meet your ego needs.
They cannot meet your soul needs. And so we get married to folks that build our ego and give us a sense of approval and value.
You don't become a spouse when you are in that condition. You become a patient. Where you going? How long are you gonna be? Why are you being away so long? Why do you have to work late again? See, when you are whole, you don't need nobody to be somebody. And it's a privilege for somebody to have your body in the presence of their body.
When you are somebody if someone says to you, I love you, I need you oh, I need you run. You ever heard this? Some of the songs are amazing they show how corrupt we are in our minds. Sounds like, if you leave me now you take away the biggest part of me.
Please don't go now, wait a minute. If she leaves, she can take what was she doing with that part? How about this one? Oh, girl. I'll be in trouble if you y'all ain't faithful, you mean people have that much control over your life? How about that one? Another one? You are the sunshine of my life. Yeah, that's a dangerous song because I just told you that you are my sun. Which means when you go away, I'm in darkness.
Ain't no one supposed to be that kind of light to you. God's will is simple. I am a sun all by myself.
And when I meet you, you are another sun. And when we get together, we have a constellation shall Hallelujah somebody. And just in case you don't appreciate how valuable the sunshine is and decide to leave me and go somewhere else just remember you don't take my light away.
I have my own light. So go away and let me shine on.