You never expected it. You thought the love would last forever. But alas, you're alone and you're left scratching your head, wondering what happened.
And if there is a possibility that you can get this woman that you really love back, I say read this article because I've got some very good insights for you. When someone in your life left you in, the relationship is over.
Sometimes the heartache seems too much to bear. The pain of watching them move on with their life, possibly with someone else, can be debilitating. So what do you do? Well, if you're looking for a way to get your ex back who has lost feelings for you, then you've come to the right place.
Number one, don't be bitter.
You know that taste, right? I mean, suffice to say that bitterness that stays in your mouth, goes down your throat and sends acid to your stomach. But really, that bitterness that you also feel that they left you in the lurch, you should never let that bitterness overcome you. If you do, then chances are you're going to feel miserable and it's going to be even harder to get your ex back.
So how do you get rid of that feeling? Well, listen carefully. Don't take it personally, since deep inside you know it's not actually about you. So don't let it eat away at your insides, leaving nothing but that bitter shell behind.
No matter what the reason was for the breakup, no matter what the exact nature of your breakup looks like, there are certain things you need to remember. Suppress your bitterness a lot of the time. Bitterness is what splits relationships.
It's not an easy thing, but you're going to have to learn how to do it. It's a choice of survival, and that is what it comes down to. Never let bitterness linger in your heart and mind, because that can only bring you more pain in the end.
Number two, know why your ex lost feelings for you. Now, if you're trying to win back your ex, it's important to know why they lost feelings for you in the first place. Maybe they weren't emotionally ready, and that might have been the reason that they ended up walking away and leaving you in the lurch.
Maybe they lost interest. Or maybe it was just time to move on. Or maybe in the end, their relationship simply just wasn't going anywhere, which is something else that you need to consider and think about.
Of course, there may be other reasons as well, but these are a few of the reasons that I can talk about. Top of mind. So first off, work out why the relationship ended up being untenable in the first place.
Now, maybe you've been coming on too strong, or maybe you haven't been coming on strong at all. You've been blase about the whole relationship. Either way, you need to know why they lost feelings for you so that you can avoid making the same mistakes over and over again.
Number three, give them ample space and time. Now, if your ex has lost feelings for you, you need to realize that time and space are absolutely crucial. You need to give her both time and space in order to demonstrate that you're willing to let go of the relationship.
Let your ex think things over and let them get past the initial turmoil that they're going through at the moment. And what's more, don't try to stalk them. Don't try to call them.
Don't try to cling on to them. Don't try to beg, because this will make you seem overly desperate, which is never a good look. Now, some people believe that love means being with your partner all the time, but this is not always the case.
Your partner needs space. They need time, and they need it away from you in order to process everything that has happened and everything that has gone down properly. So don't be too pushy about it.
Don't try to force them into a relationship. Instead, give your ex that time and space that they need to themselves to process everything. Number four understand what your ex is feeling.
Now, some people think that it's important to understand what you're feeling in a relationship, but if you ask me, that might not necessarily be the case here. Now, what matters is what your ex is feeling. And their feelings are important because that's what's going to determine whether or not they get back together with you.
So instead of wasting so much time trying to understand how you feel, make sure that you're doing everything possible so that your ex can feel good and positive while they go over their feelings. Again. Be patient.
I understand that you may feel like you're drowning in the pain of your breakup and that you need to fix things. Your ex needs time to process everything and give the relationship a chance to grow into something better than what it was before. Number five do things to improve yourself.
Now, while you're waiting for your ex to get back to you and show that they have feelings for you. Again, do things to improve yourself. Never stay the same.
Yes, I mean, it's a good idea to make yourself look better, but it's also about improving your life in general, so that getting back together with your ex will be easier for both of you in the end. Improve your relationships with other people. Take some time out from being involved with your ex and focus on other parts of your life.
Go on a date or go out as friends. Get some hobbies. Try something new.
This is the right time to work on yourself and let your ex see exactly what they will be missing out on if they don't give you a second chance. But no matter how much you want to change for the better, make sure to be true to yourself. And try not to be someone else or some version of you that isn't really who you are.
Show them who you really are and let them see exactly why they should give the relationship another chance. Don't hide behind the mask of false bravado. Just Relax.
Show them who you are. Be Authentically You, Everybody else is taken.
Number six attract your ex back with fresh new feelings. Now, if you haven't been getting along with your ex after the breakup, then this is going to be incredibly difficult.
In fact, loving someone involves having a great level of respect for them. And that respect needs to grow as time passes by. Now, even though you feel hurt right now, your ex probably feels hurt as well.
And that's something you need to really consider or think about, because I believe that that's why it's so important to put a good amount of time between the breakup and when you start trying to win your ex back. It's important that you guys need or get that time to heal. You need to give your ex time to get over the pain so that when they do get back together with you, they're ready for a new revived relationship.
Now, as soon as you feel ready, do what it takes to win them back while making it clear that you also respect them and respect their decisions. The key point here is in order to truly win your ex back, you need to do things differently than what got them to break up with you in the first place. If you're still going to be holding on to old notions, old ideas that ticked them off, trust me, your reunion will not last.
Number seven. Make them realize what they're losing. Now, this step seems very obvious, but it's also one that people overlook a lot.
What exactly are you trying to do? You want to make your ex feel as if they're missing out on something great. Not only that, you want them to start looking forward to getting back with you again. Most breakups happen because of communication problems.
And if you don't communicate well with your ex, it's going to be difficult for them to understand why you want them back. So what can you do in this situation? Send this no communication text right now. Say this you're right.
It's best that we don't talk right now. But I'd like to be friends eventually. This one needs to be sent to your ex at the right time for it to be truly effective.
But why I like it is that you're communicating with them that you don't really need to talk to them anymore. In essence, you're saying to them that you don't really need them to play any role in your life anymore. Why is this good? Well, you induce a fear of loss in your ex which will trigger their attraction for you again.
Number eight, remember the reasons why you broke up. Now do you know why you broke up with your ex? Maybe your ex wanted to move on and have a different type of relationship. Maybe you two were growing apart and one of the two or both of you were decided that it would be maybe the best for both of you to end the relationship.
I mean, whatever the reason may be, it's important to remember it. It's an important point because at least you will have a roadmap of sorts guiding you on the straight and narrow so you don't repeat past mistakes. Number nine, establish a great friendship with them.
Now, there are many ways to get a relationship back on track after the breakup. One of the most common ones is to start communication with them again once the two of you are willing to go down that line. Now, I know it may be weird and even difficult to be friends again with your ex, but it can be done.
It's not impossible. What you're going to have to do is to wait for the perfect time, for the perfect moment, where the two of you have both had enough space between each other and are able to communicate constructively and politely again. To start a friendship with an ex sounds really complicated.
But you can start with these simple steps by sending them a message and saying that, hey, you're willing to be friends. Ask them if they're willing to be friends back as well. Be willing to communicate with each other on a regular basis in order for the two of you to continue that friendship.
And if neither of you are very comfortable with this, then maybe you shouldn't force it. And don't try to force something too early in the relationship as well. Just wait for the two of you to get to a good point, a good spot where you can actually be friends.
The bitterness has disappeared and everything is a go. Now, in order for this step to work out, you need to be open and communicate with your ex as well. Now, after the breakup, they'll most likely be confused.
They'll be hurt. But as you communicate with them more often, they'll be able to see that you've changed to become a better person. Now, the longer you're able to maintain this kind of communication, the higher the chances of getting your ex back increases.
Remember, no matter what rift there is between the two of you at this moment in time, the best way to approach it is through cautious friendship. If things go well while your ex and you are friends again, things might click in place for a new relationship and finally show them that you care and you think about them. Now, you can do so in various ways.
I mean, at this point, your ex may see some changes in you. They may see how much you've grown and how all the bad habits that they hated about you are either gone or you're working on them. If not, then at least they should see that you were grit breaking up with them.
Think about all the things that used to make them happy, the gestures that they appreciated so much. This will be a good time for you to kick in and get them done. Once again, pace yourself.
Don't overdo it. Or you could come across as overbearing. Is there something that they liked? Is there a gesture they appreciated? Now is your time to shoot your shot all over again.